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Ann

I am nothing special
You wont see much interesting here, just my daily life.

I have a webpage; 

northlady.wix.com/northlady

Not liking me, does not give you any right to be mean. I dont deserve the harassment i get from some people

On internet you can be anything you want, its strange that so many people choose to be stupid...

And because these people, life change - nightmares, fears and put restriction to your life.

NB:

UK: The new law of stalking carries a maximum six-month sentence and stalking involving a fear of violence or serious distress carries a maximum five years in prison 

Norway;  The Government wants people who persecute or bothering others could be sentenced to four years in prison.

The purpose is to make it easier to judge people for harassment on the Internet, and to double the level of punishment for more serious cases.

People who post name/adresses, and do harassment will be traced and get what they deserve.

Resentful Stalker

Motivation
(a) Wants to frighten and distress his victim. 
(b) Stalks his victim to get revenge against someone who has upset him. 
(c) Views his victim as being similar to those who have oppressed and humiliated him in the past. 
(d) May view himself as a victim striking back against an oppressor.

Stalking Behaviors
(a) If he recognizes he is being rejected by the victim, may become threatening or violent. 
(b) May engage in behaviors such as: 
- Writing letters to the victim 
- Calling the victim on the telephone 
- Sending the victim gifts 

justification to themselves – as a way of dealing with the cognitive dissonance that results from inconsistencies between the way they treat others and what they believe about themselves.
justification to others – as a way of escaping harsh judgment or condemnation they may fear from others.

the victim may, unwittingly encourage the stalker by trying to "let him down easy," or agreeing to talk to him or meet with him just one more time. Victims need to understand that there is no reasoning with a stalker. Just the fact that stalking - an unreasonable activity - has already begun illustrates this fact. When the victim says, "I don't want a relationship now", the stalker hears, "She'll want me again tomorrow." When she says, "I just need some space," he hears, "If I just let her go out with her friends, she'll come back." "It's just not working out," is heard as "We can make it work out." In blatant words, the only thing to say to the stalker is "NO". Do not give explanations, do not give time limits and do not give the stalker any room to maneuver.

Being stalked by a stranger can affect the way a person looks at others and at life in general. Victims of stranger stalking often feel they can no longer smile at or be friendly with strangers or casual acquaintances and come to question the meaning of smiles given by others. They stop being outgoing instead they become standoffish and self-protective. They discover that their whole lives are changed.

Stalkers may have major mental illnesses like schizophrenia, manic-depression or erotomania. What they all have in common is some false belief that keeps them tied to their victims. Frequently they have had little, if any contact with their victims.

The most common tactics for stalkers and bullies include:
Monitoring you and friends- looking at what you post, photos, where you go, who you go with etc.
Spyware - putting spy software on your phone or computer
Sending text, messages - sending hurtful or threatening messages to you over and over again
Account takeovers/hacking - accessing your online accounts
Denigration - send, post, or publish cruel rumors and untrue statements to damage your reputation
Distribute photos or videos - distributing photos or videos to embarrass you
Exclusion - contacting or inviting everyone but you
Flaming - posting an abusive response so everyone can see it
Outing - telling people something embarrassing about you
Threats and Dissemination - they threaten you and then tell everyone
Confidence tricks- getting you to reveal information about themselves and then using against them
Impersonation - pretending to be the victim either online or via email etc.
Spaming- signing the victim up for junk email
Trolling - say something online to get you to provoke you into responding
Bullying by proxy - getting others to join in

Anyone out there recognize themselves, in one or more of the examples??